Two words seem to pass through my mind far too many times during the day. I try to prevent them, but not always successfully.
These are the same two words I hear from friends … and even in the conversations of complete strangers.
Two words that have the power to darken the view of the past, present and future.
The two profound words … “if only”.
If only I had this, if only I had that, if only I could, if only I didn’t have to … if only I had, if only I hadn’t.
These two words take away the now, put conditions on the future and pull one into a past that cannot be changed.
They block present pleasures, deprive hopes for the future and prevent the enjoyment of past memories.
“If only” … has never changed anything.
I realize that the only escape from these powerful words is to think of the now, to appreciate the present, to plan the future and to accept the past. A task easier said, than done.
There is a quote that offers a wonderful escape to the emotions that come with the words ”if only”.
It says: Fill your life with things you love.
Nothing else matters. I’m going to try it. I’ll let you know.